On Love

I realize this isn't my standard "update" day, as set by my first post, but eh. I'm a bit bored and feel like writing.

It's no secret amongst my friends and family that I tend to have absolutely horrible taste in women. It's not so much that they're bad people, just that they're bad for me. I usually have little to nothing in common with them, or I just want different things in life. That, or they're in a relationship already.

What follows are 3 steps to a lasting relationship.

See, the thing with relationships is this (as I see it): You don't want a perfect person, and you don't want a person that's perfect for you. Ideally, everyone should find a person who they can love despite their numerous flaws. I've known precisely one girl I found to be absolutely perfect for me, and you know what the problem with that is? I'm pretty sure I'd get into a routine and be bored. We got along so well that we never disagreed on anything, we had all the same interests, and it was just... boring. Never dated her, either.

So step 1 - Open your eyes and accept the person as they are, with the understanding that sometimes you will get upset with them.

The other thing I've noticed is that most people change when they date a person. And the change is, ususally, specific to the partner. People who swear up and down that they're never going to change for anyone? Lying. Bold faced, through their teeth, lying. EVERYONE changes for someone, they just don't like admitting it. Case in point, during my last relationship, I was much more "affectionate" than I normally would be, because it made her happy. It would have made me annoyed. Or, a woman whom was interested in me, told me that she liked all the things I do (in response to me telling her we had nothing in common).. She swore that she wouldn't change who she was for anyone, blah blah blah... Here's the thing. We really don't have anything in common. She proceeded to tell me she plays video games (she doesn't), she likes the same music as me (she doesn't), and that she likes Doctor Who (as all people should, but she hadn't even seen it at that point)... So I did what I would do to anyone else, and called her on her false statement. So she watched The Doctor, said it was ok, but in reality she doesn't like it at all. She was changing who she appeared to be so that I would be interested in her. And that's silly. That's setting up your relationship for failure before it even starts. I should know, I've done it myself quite a few times. Also, never dated this girl. I'm fairly confident that I never would, either.

Step 2 - Everyone changes, learn to not try and hide it.

I really don't even know why I'm writing this, as I know that neither of those is even going to matter to me or anyone else. It all boils down to step 3.

Step 3 - Be with someone you love, and let yourself be happy.

And thus, step 3 trumps the other two. Sure, you may make some mistakes along the way, but hopefully you'll end up with someone you should be with. Or, you'll meet someone you love and let them go be happy with who they love. I've only done that once, though, so hopefully next time I'll get to keep her.